urbane

adjective2

1. •
   Of a person (usually a man): having refined manners; courteous, polite, suave.

   • We took advantage of our acquaintance with the urbane Frenchman to join his party; the conversation turned almost entirely on literary subjects. — 1828
2. •
   Of an act, expression, etc.: suited to a person of refined manners; elegant, sophisticated.

   • To guests, a servant should not sour-faced by, / But do the honours with a mind urbane. — 1871