mismeet

verb2

1. •
   To come together but fail to properly communicate or connect in positive ways.

   • Perhaps more than any other it illustrates both the meeting and the mismeeting of religion and psychology. — 1992
2. •
   To fail to properly satisfy or comply with.

   • In such pathological relatedness, the child's archaic security needs (which are developmentally immature and of a grandiose and idealizing nature) either go unmet or are mismet. — 1994