keep score

verb3

1. •
   To keep track of the score in a game.
2. •
   (figurative) To keep track of figures, numbers, or other details in various other contexts.

   • Too many of us are attempting to "prove" our manhood by the tired heterosexual method of "keeping score". — 1977
3. •
   (figurative) To monitor and assess the actions and conduct of others, including potential infringements, conflicting objectives, or notable interactions, across interpersonal, political, and broader social domains, encompassing both offline and digital environments.

   • What I've learned I'm not really sure / Oh so many times / I've stopped keeping score / Traces and faces and people I meet / Seem to be a circle that just repeats — 1974